Choices

So many times we expect our day to go one way but as luck (good or bad) would have it, things don't end up how we won't them to be. Today started pretty good actually despite my lack of wanting to get out the bed this morning. Work was pretty typical nothing fantastic. So I bet you wondering what caused me to write this blog. My only response would be: CHOICES

My morning facebook status said " Focus on the things that you can change. So often we work hard to change things that we have no control over. Lessen your burden by focusing on what you can change." Little did I know I would be talking about myself 8 hours after I posted this.

Working with young people who have not always made the right choices in life is not a job for everyone but I like to think that I do alright. So often you will hear me talk to them about making better choices and how changing one simple thing can turn your life completely around. I know that not everyone is receptive to the "wisdom" I bring to the table but I like to think at least one of them listens to me. Doing this kind of work has its many rewards but there is also heart break. Anyone who knows me understands how much of myself I give to others and that when I invest my time and effort it is because I truly care. I have be thinking the past 6 hours about how best to reconcile what I feel with what reality is. There are times when you think your best isn't good enough and today is that time.

A bad choice was made by a young person who I really believed in and worked with for months. I understood that at the end of the day a persons choice is their own regardless of what we want. After learning of this bad choice I changed my facebook status to read: "It only takes a split second to change your life forever. Be careful what you chose." In an instant this young person is no longer with us and I am trying to wrap my brain around that. To add fuel to the fire this is not the first time a young person whom I have had contact with made a choice similar to this with the same end result. It is difficult to move forward when you feel as if the world is on your shoulders and your heart is so into making things better. There will be some who think that maybe I'm being to sensitive, to hard on my self or even to optimistic considering the population. To those people I will say, opinions are like belly buttons we all have them.

My hope is that more people really examine the choices that they make in life and understand how something so simple can have a devastating effect. If you aren't doing it right now I encourage you all to make sure you stop and think before you take action. It doesn't cost you anything to think but it can cost you your life when you don't.

Peace
Tonette

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I figured there were tooooooo many things happening in the world that I had an opinion about and I needed to share that opinion with others. Yes that is very forward of me but that's just how I am. I'll give it to you straight no chasers needed. To give you a quick intro of what you can expect from this blogger. I would say a whole lot of positivity, women's basketball, grad school blues, reality show drama, food talk, occasional random outburst and humor. I hope you all enjoy. Sit back relax and I look forward to your comments.